Impossible is Impossible

This blog is my way of reflecting upon life. Life is about living and learning. As I live and learn I’m going to reflect upon this life I lead. Hopefully I'll offer something insightful with my postings. If you learn nothing else from me, know this that “impossible is impossible”.

Monday, April 30, 2007

Words of the Week

Sunday- My responsibilities are to do the best work I can do and to be the best human being I can be.... -Toni Morrison, Author

Monday- Some people judge the present and cancel out the future on the basis of their negative assessment of the past. -Jeremiah Wright, Minister

Tuesday- It is a need of the spirit not to forget whoever has let you feel beautiful and safe. -June Jordan, Poet

Wednesday- Real joy comes not from ease or riches or from the praise of men, but from doing something worthwhile. -Pierre Corneille

Thursday- Desire! That's the one secret of every man's career. Not education. Not being born with hidden talents. Desire. -Bobby Usher

Friday- What you love doing is what you were put here to do. -Susan L. Taylor, Magazine Editor

Saturday- Trouble creates a capacity to handle it. -Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.

Saturday, April 28, 2007

Why I Love Black Women

A few weeks back I wrote on J's blog, that in some cases there are some women who like to buy shoes. Here exists a man who likes to buy books. Part of me thinks that it's due to a love of reading and writing. This love was fostered by my mom who brought my sister, my godsister, and I little chairs so we could pull ourselves up to a long brown wooden chest, which doubled as a desk. Early on we'd sit there scribbling, drawing, coloring. Early on we'd sit there reading, and us working away I'm sure would give my mother time to breathe, and time to read.

Last night I lay in bed reading Michael Eric Dyson's Why I Love Black Women, partly because it sits on my desk with notebook paper crammed inside. On the notebook paper are notes such as page numbers, quotes, references, names to research at a later date. It comes hours after I filled out a schoolmate's psychology survey which asked me about my preference towards black women or white women. It made me second guess myself and ask that question is preference sometimes very akin to prejudice?

As I read I listened to Jill Scott's "Experience Jill Scott 826 +". The track, track #4 it was entitled "Slowly Surely". I continue listening. At the end of another track Scott segues into a new song. She recalls her visits to radio stations, and hearing callers.

Jill (in a little woman/baby voice): I don't understand, I don't understand, you know Jill Scott is supposed to be so positive.

Jill (in Jill's matter of fact voice): First off, I never said that, (pause) we have this thinking that soon as we somebody with a natural they automatically positive. Come on, some days I am. Some days I'm not. Human. Anyway (sucks teeth). So (sucks teeth).

Jill (in a little woman/baby voice): They say, I don't understand you know she supposed to be so positive. Why she talking about fighting another sister in the street? That's just wrong. That's wrong.

Jill (in Jill's matter of fact voice): Well if they had listened to the lyrics in the first place they wouldn't have any questions. Try to tell a story: First verse: I come very lady like. Sister girl I know you don't understand but you goin' have to. Second verse: it gets a little more serious , sugar, honey, girl. I don't talk about whooping nobody's ass to the bridge. What? This song ain't even about whooping ass. What the song is about, what the song has always been about is principle. I told her once, I told her twice....third time. (Hooting and hollering of the audience).

Dyson writes lovingly of the influence black women yield. He focuses early on, on their prevalence when it comes to using words, and as it relates to religion and spirituality. Scott shows how sisters can wield power with their words, and with their very essence. Tis' one of the reasons I love black women.

Thursday, April 26, 2007

Early Morning Reflections Part 3 (The End)

There are blurred lines of intimacy. Sometimes so much so that we in our minds have relationships which continue to evolve, even when our hearts are at a standstill. It's a blurred line between fantasy and reality. Part of it feels like make believe then you come to see, it's too good to be true.



4-22-07
4:54am

Monday, April 23, 2007

Early Morning Reflections Part 2

It's so weird that when I talk to her my heart stops racing, my hands stop sweating, the corners of my face curl up in a smile, and I muffle laughter as not to fill the walls with my "crazy laugh." Why I don't know? It just happens that way.
It used to be that people said to me you have a "crazy laugh". I remember the days when we didn't talk mostly through the computer screen. She would tickle me, to make me laugh my "crazy laugh". I'd try to run as if I were a kid playing a game with a family member. Then I'd give up, I'd give up, and I'd fill the walls with my crazy laugh.
So when I asked: "When i say i'm no longer attracted to you, do you believe i'm being honest?" I didn't know what to expect.
First she answered: I don't know maybe you are to my personality. That was not even remotely closely to her normal response, a normal response for her.
True to form she eventually delivered: Yes, you love me secretly, and want to add to the production of my babies.
That my friends is why she matters and why she's still my friends.
The corners of my face curled up, and out came a smile.

4-22-07
4:51am

Sunday, April 22, 2007

Early Morning Reflections Part 1

This weekend I had one of those times where I had mixed emotions. Part of me was sad that information was revealed to me, which made my heart ache. Part of me was glad that I learned it now rather than later. It's times like these that we need. Sometimes the pain of learning something, of having nightmares realized puts things into perspective. These are the moments when people we put on pedestals become human again. These are the times when I remind myself that no one is perfect.

4-22-07
4:45am

Words of the Week

Sunday- “But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads?”- Albert Camus Monday-“Self dedication is a spiritual experience.” -Cesar Chavez
Tuesday-“That's what I consider true generosity. You give your all, and yet you always feel as if it costs you nothing.” -Simone De Beauvoir Wednesday-“Success is the child of audacity.”-Benjamin Disraeli
Thursday-“There is but one coward on earth, and that is the coward that dare not know.”- W.E.B. DuBois
Friday- “I have accepted fear as part of life - specifically the fear of change.... I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says turn back..”-Erica Jong
Saturday-“A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.”-Nelson Mandela

Monday, April 16, 2007

GIRLS HAVE COOTIES

Well they have something, plenty of something, and I'm not getting any of it LoL.

It must be them, cause it sure as heck can't be me.

Though I am of naturally a work in progress, I am already high quality. ;-)

I'm single, attractive, ambitious, intelligent, caring, compassionate, a good listener, but also articulate.

Last evening I talked to one of my friends from high school. During freshman year of college we talked almost every day. Since she got her present boyfriend it's maybe once every month, or every two months. Today we talked for 67 minutes, and 19 seconds. How about I just realized that cell phones time your calls? Yea, I'm a little slow on the uptake. It's always good to hear from her and know that she's doing well. Depending on how long it's been since we talked, we touch all our bases. We get updated on each other school life, I get updated on her love life cause I have none, we talk about mutual friends, and then about the future.

Today she tells me classes are okay, she has an internship interview, but she and her bf have been beefing. She said that "he tries to seduce me, and gets mad because she can't." They are in a long distance relationship, and quite frankly he wants more attention and affection, even if it's over the phone. While my friend cares about him, I doubt she gives him all he expects. I told her about the need for communication. My feelings were that once they see each other face to face, some of the tension will ease. It'll also make it easier to have the needed discussion about what they expect from one another. She doesn't want to have to change who she is, and shouldn't have to, nor should she expect him to change. I continued lecturing on what would ideally come from communication, a comprimise in the sense that they find a solution that appeases them both.

Every time we talk, she says the same thing. "T says if I weren't with him, I'd be with you." Yesterday she said this, and she added, "He said if the timeline were different we'd be together." I told her how she always said that and its kind of crazy. It used to be her mother who said it, LoL, and that is nutso. Her mother clicked in while we were talking, "My mom says hi." Weird, huh?! (Weird sidebar: I need a new doctor cause the pediatrician's are tired of seeing me. Note: If I had a child at 20 that'd be normal, than me at 20 in their office. So they recommended my friend's mother. I just got this weird thought of her mom performing a physical and checking all my parts. Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww) Anywho. She then asked, "So what do you think?" People have been saying it should be me and her since high school. I had a crush, but it was a high school crush. I really have no clue as to whether it'd ever work.

Then there's my former cuddle buddy. This child uh needs to be cut off, before I act stupid. She just broke up with her boyfriend. I spent time petting her up over phone during Easter Break and consoling her in person, once we got back to school. I'm attracted to her, duh. She knows it, I know it. It probably ain't good that she wants to spend QT (quality time), without it being quality time. I know I'm one of her closest friends, so I don't want to leave her hanging. But that does not seem like a good situation for me to be in, its zapping me somewhat emotionally.

Then there is my crush. Yea, never going to get it. I should go back to loving to hate the fact that she's cute. We never see each other. We exchange awkward Facebook messages, cause we're both a little bolder when sitting at a keyboard. Her personality though is too different. Her priorities are like that of a child her age, though she's a year older than most of the kids in her grade. She's still for showboating, and I'm all about substance. Not going to work.

So I'm going to continue to tell myself that girls have cooties.

Sunday, April 15, 2007

Words of the Week

Sunday- Even impossible says I'm possible. -Anonymous
Monday- The power of a movement lies in the fact that it can indeed change the habits of people.-Steven Biko
Tuesday-A healthy attitude also includes faults.- Albert Camus
Wednesday-Preservation of one's own culture does not require contempt or disrespect for other cultures. -Cesar Chavez
Thursday-Life itself is the proper binge. -Julia Child
Friday-If you can't appreciate it, you don't deserve it.- Anonymous
Saturday-For me, music and life are all about style.-Miles Davis

Friday, April 13, 2007

Life Comes At You Fast

This week was one of those weeks. We had off last Thursday, Friday, and this Monday for Easter Break. As I said it was a low key break for me I relaxed, chilled with the family, talked on the phone a bit, and read. Sometimes being lazy is earned and deserved.

On Tuesday it was back to class. Add to class trying to make definite plans for my internship, trying to get plans together for Vegas (yea I still got sidetracked from doing that), trying to produce atleast one more package before year's end (dang it trying to write and edit), and then my volunteerism. I don't know what my grades are looking like. My mind is in overdrive so that slate which generally keeps a record of my rights and wrongs, probably doesn't have an accurate score.

I am glad the week is over. My week's never really end in actuality. They just blur together. Atleast though life slows down on Friday's after 5.

Like now I'm cleaning because my desk and my desk area were dusty and cluttered. I'm also IMing one of my friends. Sometimes just connecting with those people who know me and understand me helps bring me down, and calm me down. A little bit later I'm going to put on some music, maybe some Maxwell, maybe some Jill and just read. I'm like 80 or so pages away from finishing In An Instant.

Monday, April 09, 2007

Hallmarks of the Vaca

I don't know that there is ever a hallmark to any of my vaca's except maybe the following. Generally I go to sleep at an ungodly hour, which is the only way I end up sleeping in. Generally I do a lot of talking on the phone to people I don't have the opportunity to talk to when school is in season, or if life is just too busy. And lastly I do a lot of reading.

This break I read René Syler's book Good-Enough Mother which was a fascinating read. I'm neither woman, nor a mother, but it didn't stop me from having an appreciation for René's story. The book focuses on René's unconventional approach to parenting due in part to her marriage and her career. René married a man fourteen years her senior, who already had a grown daughter. Later they had kids, and her career as a broadcast journalist took off. Then she had to balance being an independent woman, being a loving wife, being a caring mother, and being a conscientious anchorwoman. It's an amazing story about how René has managed to create the life she would be most happy with. Let me tell you reading about René's kids Casey and Cole and her husband Buff left me laughing a whole lot. Her daughter 10-year-old Casey is depicted as a beautiful, sensitive, do-gooder, the classic do no wrong type. Her son 8-year-old Cole is portrayed as a equally lovely child, but one whose adventurous, often unpredictable, an adorable free spirit. Even though as I said I'm not woman, nor am I a mother, it reminded me of something. Some women endeavor to be perfect mothers, most people at some point in their lives endeavor to be perfect people. It's for all of us to be "good enough" for our families, but more importantly for ourselves.

Now as school picks back up I'm reading In An Instant which was the book co-written by Bob Woodruff and his wife Lee. It chronicles what happened after an improvised explosive device hit the vehicle in which Woodruff was riding in Baghdad last year. The explosion shattered Woodruff's skull, lodged debris in his head, and blew a hole in his back but fortunately he survived. Woodruff who weeks before had become co-anchor of ABC's World News Tonight was the first television news anchor injured while covering a war. Their book discusses his injury, his recovery, and the impact on their family. Also, it discusses their love story, and sacrifices they made so that both could have fulfilling careers and have the family, they always wanted.

I guess it rather serendipitous that I'm reading these books as I prepare to cross the threshold from child to adult, and prepare to end my studies and begin a career. It will help me contemplate what I'll do to have a complete life.

Sunday, April 08, 2007

Sunday- "Beauty puts a face on God. When we gaze at nature, at a loved one, at a work of art, our soul immediately recognizes and is drawn to the face of God." -Margaret Brownley

Monday- "Ability is of little account without opportunity." - Napoleon

Tuesday- "Don't let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was." -Richard L. Evans

Wednesday-"Jealousy is all the fun you think they had." -Erica Jong

Thursday-“Caged birds accept each other but flight is what they long for.” -Tennessee Williams

Friday-"Not all who wander are lost." -J.R. Tolkien

Saturday- "Happiness is a choice that requires effort at times." -Anonymous

Tuesday, April 03, 2007

"To Thine Own Self Be True"

My mind moves so fast that I come across something that I want to go back and check out, and in the blink of an instant it is gone.

So, I was lucky that the invitation for a Facebook group prompted me to head to , and to the "This I Believe" section of the website. It's a fascinating collection of personal essays which are in the person's own words. It's one of my fave things about the flexibility of radio. It's one of my favorite things that NPR does.

Click on the title of the posting to hear Judith Jamison's thought provoking essay.

Hope your week is going well folks.

-CNEL

Sunday, April 01, 2007

Beyonce May Redeem Herself

So Beyonce may redeem herself with the B-day re-release, if this song is any indication.

I like it and like other people who've commented on the song, it seems to be simple. Simplicity is sometimes needed.

Sunday- “I'm thankful for every moment.”
-Al Green

Monday-“I sing to the realists; people who accept it like it is.”
-Aretha Franklin

Tuesday-“Great artists suffer for the people.”
-Marvin Gaye

Wednesday-“My travels led me to where I am today. Sometimes these steps have felt painful, difficult, but led me to greater happiness and opportunities.”
-Diana Ross

Thursday-“I feel that it is healthier to look out at the world through a window than through a mirror. Otherwise, all you see is yourself and whatever is behind you.” -Bill Withers

Friday-“To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.”
-Roberta Flack

Saturday-“I look for what's of value and extract that. I don't look to criticize.” -Herbie Hancock